Wednesday, May 30, 2012

HOW TO BUILD STRONG FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS

Our society thrives on strong families. Our family teaches us how to function in the world. It should provide love and warmth to all of its members. A strong family gives its members the support they need to make it through life’s toughest spots.

Strong families have good communication. Strong families have open lines of communication - where all family members feel heard and respected. One of the best ways to strengthen your family is to increase your listening skills and those of other family members. Until we can hear each other, we cannot build strong relationships.

To build strong family relationships, listen actively to each other. Give the person your full attention, turn off the TV or put down what you are doing.

Focus on what the person is telling you - rather than thinking about your reaction or response to what is being said. (There will be time for that.) Listen for how the other person is feeling and relay back to them what you think they were saying and how they are feeling. “I hear you saying that you don’t like your sister.

You look pretty mad. Did something happen?” Resist giving advice or your reaction until you are certain you have fully understood what the person was saying to you.

Use “I” messages rather than “You” messages when talking. I messages are more difficult because they require us to be clear about our own thoughts and feelings. They, however, increase the chances that our message will be heard and decrease the chances that a fight will begin. “I don’t like all this fighting. It upsets me to see the two of you not getting along.” Rather than “What’s wrong with the two of you? You’re making me crazy! Can’t you ever get along?”

Teach everyone in your family to talk with “I” messages as much a possible. You are much more likely to resolve problems when the focus is on behaviors and how those behaviors are affecting you or the family. “You” messages should be discouraged because they often lead to bad feelings and increased fighting. “You” messages seldom resolve the problem.

Encourage all family members to share their thoughts and feelings. Strong families allow all family members -- no matter how young or small -- to talk about their thoughts and feelings. This does not mean that members are not respectful of one another, but rather that feelings and ideas are respected. Everyone should be expected to express themselves in appropriate ways -- such as with “I” messages. When people feel heard and respected, they feel better about themselves, are more open to solving problems, and are more likely to allow others to express themselves. Strong families spend time together. In today’s busy world it can be difficult for families to find time to be together. All relationships need attention - and this includes the family as a whole.

Family rituals can offer a set time for families to get together and give each other the attention that is needed. A family ritual is simply a time that is set aside on a regular basis for a family to get together. This can mean having dinner together, celebrating a holiday together, going to church together, or just going for a walk together every week. It is important that the family ritual be predictable and that other activities are not allowed to upset it. to get together, to share experiences with one another, and to reconnect with each other. Knowing that the family will have time together can help us deal with those times when we are apart. Even though parents may work, children can know that each evening, each weekend (or whenever works for your family) they will have some “special time” with you.

Every child is special and every child needs some special time when she/he can have his parent all to himself. Giving your child some “special time” helps develop a close relationship with your child. Consider setting aside some time - perhaps 15 minutes - for each child each week. (Better yet, 15 minutes each day, if that is possible.) Make it a predictable ritual so that the child can depend on it and look forward to this time with you. Be sure that this “special time” is not easily interrupted by other activities. For example, don’t answer the phone during this time. Allow your child to help you decide how to spend this time. You could read books, sing songs, go for a walk, play a game - or whatever your child enjoys. The more you are able to spend “special time” with your child the stronger your relationship will be.

Look for opportunities to connect with your child. Although setting aside time with your child is important, also look for small moments that you can use to connect with your child. You can make up stories together while doing chores, talk about concerns while on the way to the grocery store, read a book together while waiting for dinner to finish. We often think we have to wait for our “special time” but all these small moments help us stay connected in between the more scheduled times.

Strong families handle their conflict fairly. All families have conflict – it’s a natural part of human relationships. Strong families are able to work through fights and disagreements by focusing on the problems, rather than by “tearing each other down.”

Keys to Fair Fighting

Stay focused on the behavior or problem. Use “I” messages to express your thoughts and feelings about the problem. For example, if you and your child are arguing about bedtime, you could say “I get angry when you continue to argue with me even after I’ve told you my decision. I want you to go to bed now.” instead of “You never listen to me. Go to bed now or I’ll spank you.”

Stay focused on the present problem. Do not bring up old issues and problems. These only distract from the present issue. You can discuss them later.

Respect each other’s right to safety. Fights should never become violent. When people are so angry that they feel like hitting one another or throwing things, then the discussion should be stopped. Agree to get together to talk again after everyone has had a chance to calm down.

Use your problem solving skills to create new solutions to the problem and teach your kids to think of ways to resolve conflict. It is not useful to fight about what isn’t working. Instead, focus on what has worked in the past or what could work now. For bedtime problems, you could try saying, “I am tired of always arguing with you about your bedtime. Let’s come up with some new ways that you can get to bed without all this hassle.” Then you and your child could think of some solutions and decide which one to try. The more you include your child, the better problem solver he will be -- and the more likely to follow through with the plan.

Strong Families Develop Trust. Strong, healthy families recognize the importance of developing trust. Trust is the glue that holds relationships together.

Some ways to develop trust in your family are:-
1. Give your child opportunities to earn your trust.
2. Let her/him do small tasks around the house and praise her/him for doing it on her/his own.
3. Show your child that you can be trusted.
4. Children need to know that they can count on what their parents say.
5. Follow through with the things you promise to do.
6. Allow people in your family to make amends because we all make mistakes.
7. Teach your child to forgive and allow yourself to forgive others.
8. Holding on to past hurts often only hurts us.
9. Teach everyone how to say “I’m sorry.” Taking responsibility for our good and our bad behaviors is important and helps to develop trust.
10. People learn to trust that they can be loved even though they are not perfect.

Saturday, February 9, 2008

WHEN DEALING WITH PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE - BISHOP FRANK OGAGBA



WHEN DEALING WITH PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE, WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Problems are not suppose to define you but design you, when problems surface that tells us that there is solution in the Word of God. If we have to deal with problems in marriages, we have to look into the foundation of marriages. Every house is built on foundation. If foundation is not right it cannot stand the test of floods, winds. Matthew 7:24-27)

Marriage depends on how you start the foundation.

1. Is God involved or do you involve God in your planning to marry, and your marriage? (John 15:5; Proverbs 3:4-5) Get God's will, is this God's will for your life?, then it is blessed already.

2. Living in the world of fantasy, promising one or another what you know you cannot do e.g. buy aeroplane if you marry me. (Matthew 5:37)

3. Avoiding wrong conceptMy friends are married I’m alone, influence from parents, Ageing, I’m getting old, I cant control myself, I need someone to support financially.

4. Traditions of menIf you follow the traditions of men you will miss the good in marriage and tradition will not deliver you from the problems in marriage. Tradition will hinder you from GOD’S BEST in marriage e.g. Asking the woman to stay with the family of the husband to teach her what to do in marriage, offering sacrifices and rituals to ancestors. E.t.c.

5. Living as husband and wife when you are not yet blessed finally by your spiritual parent that is your Pastor in the presence of the saints. (John 2:1-2)

Don’t forget your both parents have to accept and bless both of you first so that it shall be well with you. (Read these scriptures for liftings - Heb 13:4; Eph 6:1-2). If you are disobedient to your spiritual and biological parent who teaches and live by example of the Lord, your own children will do exactly what you do, you will reap what you sow

Questions you should have before going to marriage are:-

1. Am I mature enough to handle life in marriage? (1 Cor 13:11) Babies don’t get marry
2. Will I be able to provide for my family? Marriage is responsibility (1 Tim 5:8)
3. Deal with the issue you know that can destroy your marriage e.g. fornication or sexual immorality (Matt 5:27-28; 1 Cor 7:1; Prov 6:32).
4. Lying, if you keep lying to your spouse, when he/she knows about it he/she will no longer trust you.
5. Obedient is the key to dealing with problems in marriage. (Eph 5:22-25)
Home where wife submit to husband and Husband Loves his wife children easily obey.

ANOINTING FLOWS FROM THE HEAD, WIFE SHOULD BE SUBMISSIVE IN ALL AREAS E.G

1. Vision of the husband
2. Financially - Prov 31:16-18.
3. Sexually - 1 Cor 7:2-5.
4. Wife should be able to yield in this as unto the Lord. (Eph 5:22: 1 Pet. 3: 1-3
5. Husband Love your wife to the extent of given yourself for her. (Eph 5:25; 1 Cor 13:4-8)

SOME OF THE CAUSES OF PROBLEM IN MARRIAGE:

1. Holding on to the past: Let go abuses of the past because it will not allow your marriage to go forward.
2. Criticism or blaming each other can destroy your marriage.
3. Not being honest to your spouse can cause problem to your marriage.
4. Lies of the devil e.g. stand for your right. (Phil 2:4)
5. Spouse should have a vision of keeping one another happy.
6. Don’t be a receiver only, stop your right and pursue your spouse right.
7. An eye for an eye, tooth for tooth e.g. My husband stay long outside let me do the same.
8. Comparisons: Husband comparing his wife to another woman vise visa make your wife to be like the woman you want her be.
9. Ignorance of your responsibility or duty. (Eph 5; Prov 22:6)
10. Ignorance of the purpose of marriage, the place where the purpose is not known abuses is inevitable.

For more details or questions on how to have an eviable marriage call or send us an e-mail at the addresses below:

EVER-INCREASING FAITH CHURCHES
P. O. BOX 87433, HOUGHTON 2041 SOUTH AFRICA
TEL: +27 11 643 5773; FAX: +27 11 643 4031; CELL: +27 83 480 7992
E-MAIL: mweifc@mweb.co.za or bishopfrank@everincreasingfaithchurch.org
WEBSITE: www.everincreasingfaithchurch.org

Saturday, July 28, 2007

SEPTEMBER TO REMEMBER CONVENTION 2007




@ EVER-INCREASING FAITH CHURCH
88 KOTZE STREET CNR BANKET, HILLBROW
JOHANNESBURG SOUTH AFRICA
DATE: 17TH TO 26TH SEPTEMBER 2007
TIME: 10:00AM - 13.00HRS (MINISTERIAL LEADERSHIP TRAINING)
5:30PM - 8:30 (MIRACLE EVENING)
22ND SEPTEMBER 2007 10:00AM (REV FRANK OGAGBA'S - BISHOPRICK CONSECRATION)
TEL: +27 82 234 5773 (OFFICE HOURS) FAX: +27 11 643 4031
The Presiding Bishop of Church of God Mission International in Benin City, Nigeria, Bishop Margaret Benson-Idahosa will be ministering at the above Church in South Africa.
Dr. Margaret is a woman of great faith and patience. As a female, wife, mother and minister she is part of the virile, vibrant and dynamic Pentecostalism sweeping through the world.
Dr. Margaret Idahosa is the President and Founder of Christian Women's Fellowship International (CFWI) one of the largest attended women's conference in the world. CWFI was founded in 1974 and has branched in Africa, Europe and Asia. Additional branches are being established in North America and Australia.

CFWI held its first convention in August 1975 with several thousands in attendance. The conference was successful in teaching women how to please their husbands, care for their children, basic home management, the woman's importance in the body of Christ and how to present the Christian virtuous women to their communities. Most important of all, many women received Jesus Christ as their personal Lord and Savior.

Dr. Idahosa frequently ministers on the importance of the home and family. She also has a special anointing to minister to women who are believing God for children. As Bishop Idahosa ministers, she shares her own personal testimony and teaches women how to believe God and stand on His word.

Dr. Idahosa is a popular speaker and has spoken at countless seminars and conventions around the world. She is an anointed vessel and many experience God's glory as she delivers the uncompromised Word of God.

Bishop Margaret Idahosa received a Certificate of Ordination in 1984 as a member of the Clergy-Osborn Foundation. She is also the recipient of a Doctor of Divinity degree from Oral Roberts University.

Dr. Margaret Idahosa is the wife of the late Archbishop Benson Idahosa. The Idahosa's have four children; Feb, Ruth, Daisy and Freda.

also Bishop Daivd Huskins Presiding Bishop, International Communion of Charismatic Churches Presiding Bishop, Fellowship of Vineyard Harvester Churches Senior Pastor, Cedar Lake Christian Center, Cedar Lake, Georgia

Bishop David Huskins is one of the most outstanding young leaders of the 21st century. He has just been appointed Presiding Bishop of the International Communion of Charismatic Churches, which includes millions of Christians in Africa and around the world.

The council of Bishop over which he presides includes such outstanding church leaders as Bishop Margaret Idahosa, Bishop LaDonna Osborne, Bishop Blair from Jamaica, Bishop Levy Knox of Mobile, Alabama and many world leaders.

International Communion of Charismatic Churches was founded by the late David Duplessis, and officially represented the Pentecostal movement at the dialogue between the Pentecostal and Catholic churches that met at the Vatican at the invitation of the Roman Catholic Church. It includes some of the most outstanding world leaders in the church today.He also serves as presiding Bishop over the Fellowship of Vineyard Harvester Churches and the Senior Pastor of one of Georgia’s finest churches, the Cedar Lake Christian Center. He is author of two new books on the subject of covenant, which have both become best sellers.David is an outstanding preacher and a man of tremendous wisdom.

AND BISHOP JOEL THOMAS OF WORD OF LIFE OUTREACH CHURCH FROM TORONTO CANADA & OTHER BISHOPS AND PASTORS

Tuesday, June 26, 2007

EVER-INCREASING FAITH CHURCH, SWAZILAND

WORSHIP WITH US IN OUR MANZINI BRANCH
SWAZILAND

YOUTH & SEX IN THE 21ST CENTURY CHURCH


YOU ARE WELCOME TO THIS GREAT SUMMIT IN JOHANNESBURG SOUTH AFRICA.

Saturday, June 9, 2007

MANDATE FOR 2008

IT IS THE FIRM CONVICTION OF THE APOSTOLIC BISHOP FRANK & DR. PHILOMENA OGAGBA THAT THE LORD IS PREPARING THE BODY OF CHRIST FOR ONE OF THE GREATEST MANIFESTATIONS OF HIS PRESENCE IN ANCIENT AND MODERN HISTORY. CONSEQUENTLY, IT IS THE APOSTLE'S VIEW, THAT A WAVE OF GLORY IS COMING TO EVER-INCREASING FAITH CHURCHES AND WHEN IT DOES, IT WILL BE BIG, POWERFUL AND WILL LAST FOR AWHILE. IT IS THE VISION OF THE BISHOP/ CHIEF APOSTLE THEREFORE, THAT NONE IN THE ACTIVE MEMBERSHIP WILL MISS IT THIS TIME. IN 2008, THE APOSTOLIC BISHOP SEES A PRAYING , PRAISING , WORSHIPPING PEOPLE WHO ARE WILLING TO FIGHT FOR THIS FULFILLMENT IN THEIR LIVES.

BECAUSE WE ARE ENDEAVORING TO BE A PEOPLE WHO OPERATE IN BOTH THE PRIESTLY AND KINGLY ANOINTING, IT IS THE VISION OF THE APOSTOLIC BISHOP TO SEE EVER-INCREASING FAITH CHURCHES IN 2008, TAKING THE LIMITS OFF OF GOD AND OFF OF THEMSELVES. FURTHERMORE, IT IS THE VISION OF THE APOSTOLIC BISHOP TO SEE OUR SONS AND DAUGHTERS ENDEAVORING TO DO WHAT THEY HAVE NEVER DONE, GO WHERE THEY HAVE NEVER BEEN AND SEE WHAT THEY HAVE NEVER SEEN. IN 2008, WE SHALL BE A PEOPLE WHO ARE PROGRESSIVE AND PRODUCTIVE, PRAYERFUL AND PEACEFUL, YET PATIENT AND POWERFUL.
IN 2008, IT IS THE VISION OF THE APOSTOLIC BISHOP FRANK TO SEE THE ACTIVE MEMBERSHIP SERIOUSLY BEGINNING THE PROCESS OF ALLOWING GOD TO LEAD THEM INTO MAKING THE RIGHT CONNECTIONS. WITH A VIEW OF HELPING TO MAKE OUR DREAMS COME ALIVE, IT IS THE VISION OF THE APOSTOLIC BISHOP FRANK TO SEE EVER-INCREASING FAITH CHURCHES IN 2008 ALIGNING THEMSELVES WITH PEOPLE WHO CAN BRING POSITIVE ENERGY, IDEAS, ENCOURAGEMENT AND INTEGRITY INTO THEIR LIVES. THE SPIRIT OF “FAMILY” MUST BECOME MORE PRONOUNCED IN THIS MINISTRY IN 2008 AND TOGETHER BY YEAR'S END, THE FAMILY MUST EMERGE AS A DREAM TEAM WHO ARE READY TO POSSESS AND OCCUPY .
IN LIGHT OF WHERE THE LORD IS TAKING US AND BECAUSE OF HOW HE'S, OVER THE YEARS, POSITIONED US AS A PEOPLE TO BECOME SOLUTIONS TO PERSONAL , PROFESSIONAL AND NATIONAL PROBLEMS; IN 2008 WE MUST BE WILLING TO PRESS PASS OUR PERSONAL PAIN AND SEEK TO TOTALLY ERADICATE FROM OUR MIDST, THE SPIRIT OF REBELLION , MURMURING , SLOTHFULNESS AND FEAR . WHILE IN 2008, OUR WALK WITH GOD WILL NOT BE PROBLEM-FREE, WE MUST SEE OURSELVES AS VICTORS AND NOT VICTIMS, ARMED FOR ANY KIND OF CONFLICT.
IN 2008, IT IS THE VISION OF THE APOSTOLIC BISHOP FRANK TO SEE A PEOPLE FORCEFULLY RESISTING THE WILES OF THE DEVIL AND PROHIBITING THE HIGH-JACKING OF DIVINE THOUGHTS, INSPIRATION, REVELATION, INSIGHT, WISDOM, KNOWLEDGE AND UNDERSTANDING RELEASED TO THEM FROM THE THRONE ROOM OF GOD; A PEOPLE EMPOWERED TO DISMANTLE AND CANCEL ALL SATANIC OPERATIONS, STRATEGIES, TACTICS AND PLOTS DESIGNED TO HINDER, FRUSTRATE AND DESTROY GOD'S PLANS FOR THEIR LIVES. COMING FRESH OUT OF A REFERENCE-DEFINING YEAR, IT IS THE VISION OF THE APOSTOLIC BISHOP FRANK TO SEE A PEOPLE EXPERIENCING A TWELVE-MONTH PERIOD OF CELEBRATION LIKE NEVER EVER BEFORE IN JESUS NAME, AMEN.
APOSTOLIC BISHOP FRANK IDEMUDIA OGAGBA
EVER-INCREASING FAITH CHURCHES
P. O. BOX 87433, HOUGHTON 2041 SOUTH AFRICA
TEL: +27 11 643 5773 FAX: +27 11 643 4031 CELL: +27 83 480 7992

CHARACTERISTIC OF DISLOYAL PEOPLE OR LEADERS




REV. DR. PHILOMENA OGAGBA
EVER-INCREASING FAITH CHURCHES
88 KOTZE STREET, HILLBROW 2198, JOHANNESBURG SOUTH AFRICA
TEL: +27 11 643 5773; FAX: +27 11 643 4031; CELL: +27 82 687 0994
E-MAIL: eifsuperkids@yahoo.com
Website: www.everincreasingfaithchurch.org


TEXT: COL 4:17 “Take heed to the ministry which you have received in the Lord, that you may fulfill it”.

Let us play our rightful roles in this ministry especially in our departments, not competitively but according to Gods working in us as Leaders to make this place Ever-increasing Faith Churches a save heaven for Gods people that He is bringing in to be equipped to do the work of the ministry. Leaders must build a team spirit that celebrates diversity. Teams must share a common goal, but not the same gifts. Teams mature when the Leader insists on diversity and celebrates what everyone does together: John Wooden the UCLA basketball coach said, “Individual wins trophies, but teams wins championships.”

We are a team as Ever-increasing Faith Churches and we are ready to win our championship every year till we are caught up in rapture to be with our Lord Jesus forever who will say well-done my faithful servants. (1 THESS 4:13-18; MATT 25:14-19, 20-30)

Loyalty is God’s best for believers of all ages, from generation to generation and from Genesis to Revelation.

God cursed the habitation of disloyal leaders / people and household, so as a believer or Leaders desist / discontinue / abstain from disloyalty in any form; it is not your lot or inheritance.

The reason for sharing this is for believers to turn away from this wicked evil spirit – enemy of God’s kingdom that is spreading on earth to use gullible souls to want to hinder the growth of the church Gods Vision.

Remember Jesus our lord himself declared that “He will build His church” and the gates of hell shall not prevail against his ordained vision and he is doing it in our days and in this ministry. (Matt 16:18). Therefore as Spirit filled and led Christians let us join Jesus to build His church on earth with our words, actions (lifestyles) and examples before men and women as light and salt of the earth. (Matt 5:14-16)

WHY IS LOYALTY IMPORTANT?

Prov 3:3-4 “Never let loyalty and kindness get away from you! Wear them like a necklace; write them deep within your heart. Then you will find favour with both God and people, and you will gain a good reputation.”

Prov 19:22 “Loyalty makes a person attractive. And it is better to be poor than dishonest.”

Leaders understand that loyalty to God and others is essential for the integrity of their relationships and their effectiveness. Without loyalty, others become a means to an end and are not valued for who they are as persons. Your top priority is to God.

WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS OF LOYALTY?

Ruth 1:16 “I will go wherever you go and live wherever you live. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God.”

You may find that loyalty is not only a way to value those God has brought into your life, but it also may open the doors to others benefits. Ruth’s loyalty to Naomi not only gave comfort to them both, but it also brought Ruth to faith and into the ancestral line of the promised Messiah.

1 Sam 19:6-7 “So Saul listened to Jonathan and vowed, “As surely as the Lord lives, David will not be killed.” Afterward Jonathan called David and told him what had happened.

Loyalty not only brings the satisfaction of integrity in a relationship but may also bring practical benefits such as protection and care for your welfare. Jonathan’s loyalty to David actually was instrumental in saving David’s life on more than one occasion.

Acts 15:37-38 “Barnabas agreed and wanted to take along John Mark, but Paul disagreed strongly, since John Mark had deserted them in Pamphylia and had not shared in their work. Their disagreement over this was so sharp that they separated. Barnabas took John Mark with him and sailed for Cyprus”.

Loyalty can keep the relationship alive so that you can help in restoring one who has failed. Barnabas’s persistent loyalty to John Mark made it possible for John Mark to have another opportunity to “prove himself” – and he did. (Col 4:10)
Ps 31:23 “For the Lord protects those who are loyal to Him”


SOME TIPS HOW NOT TO BE A DISLOYAL CURSED PERSON OR LEADER

Stop acting differently (negatively) and be in one accord with the vision of the house, do all in your power and strength to be in unity. (Acts 1:14; 2:1-4; Eph 4:1-3; Gen 11:1-9).

Submission to authority is Gods plan for His people always and it is required in any institution. home, church, work etc. (Eph 5:21-33; Eph 6:1-9; 1 Peter 3:1-22; 1 Peter 5:1-10; Romans 13:1-8)

Stop being selfish, seeing things only your own ways and consider and think about others in making decision. Rom 12:3, 9-21)

Remain calm and gentle when confronting conflict and your example will be contagious. (Prov 15:1) Be an example of Gods flocks.

Speak wisely; making sure your information is truthful and accurate. (Prov 15:2; 16:24)

Remember, God is the ultimate judge and will execute justice. (Pro 15:3)

Use your words to foster healing; fix the problem, not blame. (Prov 15:4; 16:24; 12:14, 18, 28; 13:3)

Stay teachable; be open to correction and be quick to apologize when wrong. (Prov 15:5)

Add value to everyone who contacts you, even when you disagree. (Prov 15:6)

Speak words that spread knowledge and understanding of God as a Good witness of Jehovah. (Prov 15:7)

Accept the blame in the Spirit of Love and stop blaming others for wrongs done to you. (1 Cor 13:4-5)

Stop being childish who needed pampers at all times, grow up and become a matured sensitive Holy Spirit led Christian we claim we are. (1 Cor 13:11)

Don’t allow satan to give you a different ministry of discord or division, even when under duress, disobedient will abort and kill your destiny, remember obedient is better than sacrifice and God only want your obedience to advance and promote you for life and people will be blessed.(Deut 28:15-68; Matt 16:21-23)

Walk and live a lifestyle of faith not fear, doubt, unbelief and frustrations. (2 Tim 1:7; 2 Cor 5:7)

Uphold, support the vision of the Man of God, our spiritual father in the house, Bishop Frank Ogagba where you are currently stationed and it shall be well with you and your profiting shall appear to all. A time will come when you will be on your own as God wills and now sow your best seed in this ministry as a memorial which you will reap tomorrow. (Isa 3:10-11; 1 Tim 4:15-16)

Remember God is not confused; He is a God of order, so don’t be disorderly, there is a vision in the house already, let us learn to follow the man God has given us to lead. (1 Cor 12:25-26, 1 Cor 14:33, 44)

Don’t become an instrument of confusion to the saints or the church because of your hidden agendas that are already exposed by the Holy Spirit which is known by all but be an instrument of righteousness, right living and blessing.

Believe God’s prophecy concerning you “You are a blessing to nations” starting from your Jerusalem. (Acts 1:8)

Avoid all manner of misunderstanding – don’t create one and want to defend it selfishly, as a Christian having the Holy Spirit learn how to say I am sorry for the wrong done to my fellow believers.

Stop defending yourself and building wall that will not stand the test of time. Learn how to forgive as we are forgiven by Christ Jesus and move on to be a blessing we are called to be.

Don’t run away from your mess, clean it up, live a clean habitual lifestyle because your future will depend on them. Don’t put yourself in self inflicted made prison of your past life, put on the new nature we have in Christ Jesus. If any man be in Christ he is a new creation, the old has passed and the new has come, please allow the new creation to overshadow you. (Eph 4:17-24; 2 Cor 5:17)

Good relationship is an investment for tomorrow asks Joseph. (Gen 40:5-23; 41:1-57) In Genesis 41:38 “And Pharaoh said unto his servants, Can we find such a one as this, a man in whom the Spirit of God is?” Remember not the spirit of Disloyalty, Confusion, Rebellion and Disorderliness. As you humbly follow Gods good advice He will make you interpret someone’s dream that will take you to greater height in life, therefore be relevant in God’s agenda and do things God’s way and you will experience blessing after blessing and not curses after curses.

Please start sowing the right seed and that is what you will reap someday even now. “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith” (Gal 6:7-10; Luke 6:38)

Surrender all situations to God in prayer at all times and ask for His strength that will be make perfect in your weakness to do His will and He will fight for you as you hold your peace. (2 Cor 12:7-10)

You feel you have been wronged, don’t jump out of the save place, heaven have hidden you for a season to build character in you and to destroy all that will hinder you in fulfilling God’s purpose for your life. Wait for God’s timing of release –don’t abort God’s vision for your life and destiny. (Hab 2:1-4)

Learn how to accept correction without murmuring and complaining, remember you don’t always have the answer. God will use individual to correct us and it is not always fun. “All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: that the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good work” (2 Tim 3:16-17) God wants you perfect and furnished for good works on earth as light of the world.

Accept discipline – because it is for sons and daughters of the Kingdom of God except you have no spiritual covering or father and such people are known biblically as bastards in Hebrews 11:8 “But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons”. (Heb 12:1-11; Eph 6:1; Prov 13:24)

Discipline yourself to live a holy life and be at peace with all men at all times because that is what God’s Spirit living in you is working out so that you will always remain a blessing not a curse. (1 Peter 1:15-16; Heb 12:14)

Therefore be imitators of God as dear Children. (Eph 5:1-21)
Walk in Love vs. 1-7.
Walk in Light vs. 8-14.
Walk in Wisdom vs. 15-21.
Make sure you are not acting through the root of envy, bitterness because it dries up your bones or it is rottenness to the bones. (Prov 14:30; Heb 12:15-17) And many more, etc.