Saturday, February 9, 2008

WHEN DEALING WITH PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE - BISHOP FRANK OGAGBA



WHEN DEALING WITH PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE, WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Problems are not suppose to define you but design you, when problems surface that tells us that there is solution in the Word of God. If we have to deal with problems in marriages, we have to look into the foundation of marriages. Every house is built on foundation. If foundation is not right it cannot stand the test of floods, winds. Matthew 7:24-27)

Marriage depends on how you start the foundation.

1. Is God involved or do you involve God in your planning to marry, and your marriage? (John 15:5; Proverbs 3:4-5) Get God's will, is this God's will for your life?, then it is blessed already.

2. Living in the world of fantasy, promising one or another what you know you cannot do e.g. buy aeroplane if you marry me. (Matthew 5:37)

3. Avoiding wrong conceptMy friends are married I’m alone, influence from parents, Ageing, I’m getting old, I cant control myself, I need someone to support financially.

4. Traditions of menIf you follow the traditions of men you will miss the good in marriage and tradition will not deliver you from the problems in marriage. Tradition will hinder you from GOD’S BEST in marriage e.g. Asking the woman to stay with the family of the husband to teach her what to do in marriage, offering sacrifices and rituals to ancestors. E.t.c.

5. Living as husband and wife when you are not yet blessed finally by your spiritual parent that is your Pastor in the presence of the saints. (John 2:1-2)

Don’t forget your both parents have to accept and bless both of you first so that it shall be well with you. (Read these scriptures for liftings - Heb 13:4; Eph 6:1-2). If you are disobedient to your spiritual and biological parent who teaches and live by example of the Lord, your own children will do exactly what you do, you will reap what you sow

Questions you should have before going to marriage are:-

1. Am I mature enough to handle life in marriage? (1 Cor 13:11) Babies don’t get marry
2. Will I be able to provide for my family? Marriage is responsibility (1 Tim 5:8)
3. Deal with the issue you know that can destroy your marriage e.g. fornication or sexual immorality (Matt 5:27-28; 1 Cor 7:1; Prov 6:32).
4. Lying, if you keep lying to your spouse, when he/she knows about it he/she will no longer trust you.
5. Obedient is the key to dealing with problems in marriage. (Eph 5:22-25)
Home where wife submit to husband and Husband Loves his wife children easily obey.

ANOINTING FLOWS FROM THE HEAD, WIFE SHOULD BE SUBMISSIVE IN ALL AREAS E.G

1. Vision of the husband
2. Financially - Prov 31:16-18.
3. Sexually - 1 Cor 7:2-5.
4. Wife should be able to yield in this as unto the Lord. (Eph 5:22: 1 Pet. 3: 1-3
5. Husband Love your wife to the extent of given yourself for her. (Eph 5:25; 1 Cor 13:4-8)

SOME OF THE CAUSES OF PROBLEM IN MARRIAGE:

1. Holding on to the past: Let go abuses of the past because it will not allow your marriage to go forward.
2. Criticism or blaming each other can destroy your marriage.
3. Not being honest to your spouse can cause problem to your marriage.
4. Lies of the devil e.g. stand for your right. (Phil 2:4)
5. Spouse should have a vision of keeping one another happy.
6. Don’t be a receiver only, stop your right and pursue your spouse right.
7. An eye for an eye, tooth for tooth e.g. My husband stay long outside let me do the same.
8. Comparisons: Husband comparing his wife to another woman vise visa make your wife to be like the woman you want her be.
9. Ignorance of your responsibility or duty. (Eph 5; Prov 22:6)
10. Ignorance of the purpose of marriage, the place where the purpose is not known abuses is inevitable.

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